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Hi all - I find myself in dire need of sincere counsel, as I am increasingly convinced that my romantic life has taken on the unfortunate semblance of a rom-com wherein I alone remain bereft of the script. I'm 31, will defend my thesis this May, and have a great job lined-up. My boyfriend, aged 32, embodies the quintessential extrovert—gregarious, enamored with nightlife, and perpetually surrounded by a coterie of approximately twenty friends who reside in close proximity and convene incessantly. Initially, I admired his vivacity and character. In stark contrast, I possess a solitary confidant and derive immense satisfaction from tranquil evenings accompanied by my piano and Netflix. For New Year's, he wanted to party with his bros all night, which didn't interest me. I spent the evening feeling lonely and wishing I had someone who’d rather stay in with me and watch movies or something. Here’s the thing: I try so hard to be a good girlfriend. I'm kind, supportive, thoughtful, and I even play video games with him - and I hate them if I'm honest. Truth be told, sometimes it feels like he doesn’t appreciate me at all. I'm over here feeling like I’m putting in 110% and getting… what, exactly? A guy who splits the bill 50/50 on the rare occasion we go out and spends half the time on his phone or gaming, ignoring mostly. While certain positive attributes persist—he exhibits amiability, shares wonderful moments of laughter, and occasionally bestows modest tokens of affection—the accumulation of negative indicators cannot be ignored. His irritability, indolence, and predilection for hanging out with female friends several nights a week, including one for whom he formerly harbored romantic inclinations, gets under my skin. So, here’s my question: Am I overthinking this, or is this relationship just not it? Should I stick it out and hope things get better, or is it time to cut my losses and find someone who actually wants to stay in on a Friday night? My family and friends all think that I'm way out of his league - appearance and personality wise. Help a girl out, because I’m starting to think they might be right.
Should I stay, or should go
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