Coping with violent trauma from the past during the holiday season

by Paul Arco
OSF Healthcare


ROCKFORD - The holidays are typically a time for joy and celebration with loved ones. But for some survivors of violent crime, the holidays can also be filled with stress, anxiety and memories of not-so happy times.

“For other folks it can be the holidays that triggers something because maybe you’ve lost a loved one to gun violence or you witnessed losing that person and you’re going into the holidays and yes, it happened 20 years ago; that doesn’t mean you’re not going to have the symptoms and side effects of that loss,” says Therasa Yehling, manager for the OSF Strive Trauma Recovery Center at OSF HealthCare Saint Anthony Medical Center in Rockford.


Therasa Yehling

Yehling says those side effects include anxiety, depression or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after a trauma such as gun violence, assaults, domestic violence, human trafficking and armed violence or robbery in which they are the victim or witness.

The events causing the trauma could have occurred two weeks ago or 10 years ago. There is no expiration date on the grief that happens as a result of violent crime, Yehling adds.

“When we talk to people we actually try to get a full picture of the trauma in their lifetime," says Yehling. "We’re finding that some people have had a lot of trauma starting in their childhood all the way up. Really then, a new traumatic event can stir up all the old stuff that maybe we’ve never dealt with and the symptoms of trauma have rendered that person almost catatonic and they can’t function.”

Yehling offers several basic tips for violent crime survivors during the holidays.

  • Trust your grief and your healing
  • Experience the grief and don’t run from it
  • Say no to things that make you uncomfortable and form healthy boundaries
  • Create new traditions
  • Make a list of things you’re grateful for this year
  • Do something kind for someone else

If none of those things seem to help or if these feelings are interrupting daily activities Yehling says it’s time to seek professional help as soon as possible. She does warn that seeking support will also mean doing a deep dive into what’s causing your feelings.

“I think people have to understand that if someone is going to talk about something very traumatic, such as sexual assault, domestic violence, human trafficking – it is important that they talk to someone who can help them through that process, therapeutically," says Yehling. "Otherwise you’re helping them to relive it and that’s about it.”

Yehling adds that our expectations of having the perfect time with family during the holiday season are often unrealistic. While that can be stressful enough, it becomes worse when you add the complexities of being a survivor of violent crime. Yehling encourages family and friends to go slowly and give their loved one the time and space they need to get through the holidays.

“I just think whether you have trauma or not everyone needs to be gentle and kind and supportive,” Yehling says.

For more information on help for survivors of violent crimes, visit OSF HealthCare.


Key Takeaways: 
  • The holidays can trigger emotions for survivors of violent crime.
  • Violent crime includes gun violence, assaults, domestic violence or robbery.
  • Side effects include anxiety, depression or post-traumatic disorder.
  • Ways to cope include saying no to things that make you uncomfortable, create new traditions or do something nice for someone else.
  • If nothing else helps, seek professional help as soon as possible.

Heating things up; five tips to buying the right stove for your kitchen

StatePoint Media - Choosing the right slide-in range, (AKA “stove”) is essential for any home chef, and yours should not only cater to your cooking needs, but also complement your kitchen design. With the holiday season quickly approaching, now might be a good time to buy for delivery and installation after the new year.

“Navigating the many slide-in range options available today can feel daunting. That’s why it’s important to identify your must-have features before making a purchase,” says Peter Weedfald, senior vice president of sales and marketing at Sharp Home Electronics Company of America.

Not sure where to start? This range-purchasing guide offers five important factors to consider:

1. Size. A standard 30-inch slide-in range is a great option for most homes. If you’re looking for more cooking surface however, scale up to a 36-inch model. There are also 24-inch options for compact kitchens. Before making any purchase, measure the space to ensure the unit will fit, and that you can open the door.

2. Cooktop Surface and Fuel Source. There are three main cooktop surfaces to choose from: gas, radiant (electric) and induction. This decision can be influenced by the power source supply in your kitchen. If you have a gas line, you could choose any of the three, as long as there is also electric connectivity. If you don’t, consider a radiant or induction slide-in range. If you love the power from the open flame of a gas cooktop but desire the cooking capabilities of electric ovens, you can narrow your search to dual ovens. Helpful Hint: The cooking power measurement will indicate whether you’re dealing with gas or electricity. Gas ranges use BTUs (British Thermal Units) and electric ranges measure power output in watts.

3. Capacity. The interior capacity is the space within the range’s cavity. This is the oven. Knowing your cooking habits can help guide you in the right direction. While a standard slide-in range often offers enough capacity for an average-sized family, if you’re prone to entertaining crowds, a larger capacity like 6.1 or 6.3 cubic feet may better suit you. If you find yourself often preparing food at two different temperatures and cooking times, a dual oven may be your best bet.

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4. Finish. Whether you’re curating your kitchen piece by piece or all at once, choose an exterior finish that fits your vision. Check out the oven’s interior cavity as well. You can make a statement with an unexpected pop of color here! The Sharp 30-inch Electric Convection Slide-in Range with Air Fry (SSR3065JS) offers a sleek edge-to-edge black glass exterior paired with a cobalt blue interior. If you prefer a more neutral, toned-down feel, keep it classic with a black or gray cavity.

5. Oven Features. When prioritizing features, consider your cooking habits and needs. If counter space is a priority, the Sharp SSG3065JS is a family-size air fryer, so that is one less thing to take up your precious space.

The Sharp SSG3065JS has 34,500 BTUs of cooking power and a variety of cooking modes, including Pizza, Convection Bake/Roast, and Air Fry. The Sharp Slide-In Ranges SSG3065JS and SSR3065JS can help take the guesswork out of cooking meat. Both ranges have built-in precision probe thermometers that automatically turn off the oven when the internal food temperature reaches the programmed setting.

Learn more about slide-in range cooking features and design choices by visiting shop.sharpusa.com/products/ranges.

“When curating your dream kitchen, the ultimate goal is finding a range that looks great in your space and can help you bring your culinary creations to life,” recommends Weedfald.

Tips for a stress free move to Urbana, its not just about transporting belongings

SNS - Welcome to your next big adventure! If you're reading this, chances are you've just sold your old home, landed a new job, or moving to a new home in Urbana. Moving can be a whirlwind of emotions and tasks. This guide is your one-stop resource for planning a stress-free move in the Midwest. Before packing boxes, let's take a moment to get to know your new hometown. Understanding where you're moving is crucial in making your transition smooth and stress-free.

Understanding Urbana, IL: A Quick Primer

The Heart of Urbana
Urbana, IL, might not be the largest town on the map, but it's rich in culture, charm, and community spirit. Known for our friendly residents and various picturesque neighborhoods, Urbana offers a welcoming college-town atmosphere that makes it easy to feel at home in a heartbeat. Walking through its peaceful neighborhoods or hanging out downtown, you'll sense a warm, small-town vibe. Surrounding Illinois’ flagship university, there is always something to do in Urbana and the surrounding communities.

The University of Illinois welcomes students from all over the world to pursue a higher education. The Urbana community is rich in culture and provides a comfortable environment to live, learn, and grow.
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Weather
In Urbana, you'll experience all four seasons. On many days throughout the year, you can feel the crispness of fall, the warmth of summer a day, and the chill of winter in the same 24-hour period. Summers are warm and perfect for outdoor activities, while winters bring a crisp chill, ideal for cozy evenings indoors. Spring and autumn are particularly delightful, with nature putting on a show of bright, vibrant colors. You will need to bring a variety of clothing – from light summer wear to warm winter coats.

Community and Lifestyle
Life in Urbana is about community and simplicity. It's a place where neighbors know each other, and local events bring people from all walks of life together. You'll find various local businesses, from restaurants featuring international cuisine to trendy establishments for lovers of music and performing arts that add to the city’s unique character. Plus, with parks, an indoor aquatic center, and plenty of recreational activities, it's a great place for families and individuals who enjoy an active lifestyle. An active tennis community, Urbana, and its sister city Champaign host over 100 tennis courts, most free of charge.

Vocalists Elena Negruta and Ingrid Kammin preform a classical piece at the The CATsNAP Benefit Concert on a Sunday afternoon at the Rose Bowl Tavern in March. The popular music venue hosts live shows, summer festivals, and a summer outdoors concert series in Urbana.
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Getting Around
One of the perks of living in a smaller city is the ease of getting around. Traffic is rarely an issue; most places are just short distances away by bicycle, car, or 24-hour public bus transportation. Whether you need to run errands or want to explore, navigating Urbana is straightforward and hassle-free. Except when special events are in town, a usual commute from home to the office is 15 minutes or less.


Starting Your Moving Plan: What You Need to Know


The key to a stress-free move is all in the planning. Let's break down the essential steps to get you moving smoothly.

Setting Your Timeline
Timing is everything. Ideally, start planning your move at least two months in advance. That gives you ample time to sort things out without feeling rushed. Create a checklist of tasks with deadlines to keep you on track. Remember, the earlier you start, the smoother it will go.

Budgeting Your Move
Moving costs can add up, so setting a budget is crucial. Consider all expenses – from packing supplies to moving services. Shop for quotes and compare prices to find deals that fit your budget. Don't forget to set aside a little extra for unexpected costs – it's always better to be prepared.

Choosing the Right Moving Company
If you're moving to Illinois from another state, finding reliable interstate movers in Illinois is a big step. Look for companies with good reviews and a solid track record. Ask for detailed quotes and clarify all services included. Ensure they're licensed and insured – this gives you peace of mind knowing your belongings are safe.

Preparing for Moving Day
Now that you've sorted your timeline, budget, and movers, it's time to think about moving day. Confirm dates and times with your movers and list last-minute tasks. That could include defrosting the fridge, arranging pet care, or setting aside essentials for the first day in your new home. To make your move even more stress-free, hire a cleaning service to put the finishing touches on your old apartment or home.

Plan a Stress-Free Move: Packing Tips
Packing might seem daunting, but it can be surprisingly manageable with the right strategy. Here’s how to pack smartly and efficiently for your stress-free move.

Decluttering: Less Is More
Before you start filling boxes, it's time to declutter. Go through your belongings and decide what to keep, donate, or discard. Consider hosting a yard sale for items in good condition - it's a great way to lighten your load and earn extra cash for your move. After all, the less you have to pack, the easier your move will be.

Gathering Packing Supplies
You'll need sturdy boxes, packing tape, bubble wrap, and markers for labeling. Don't forget about specialty containers for dishes or wardrobe boxes for clothes. You can often find free boxes at local stores or purchase them from moving companies.

Smart Packing Strategies
Start packing non-essential items first, like out-of-season clothing and books. Pack room by room, keeping similar items together. Use towels or bedding to wrap fragile items. That not only saves space but also provides extra protection. Heavier items go in smaller boxes, while lighter items can go in larger ones, making lifting easier.

Labeling Is Key
Clearly label each box with its contents and the room it belongs to. That will be a huge time-saver when unpacking in your new home. Consider using different colored markers or stickers for each room to make identifying boxes easier.

Navigating the Big Day:
Smoothly Transitioning to Your New Home

The big day has arrived! It's time to move. Feeling a mix of excitement and nerves is normal, but with a bit of preparation, you can make this day go smoothly.

Here’s what you need to keep in mind:

Final Checklist for Moving Day:

  • Double-check that everything is packed and labeled.
  • Ensure important documents (like IDs, moving company contracts, and new home documents) are easily accessible
  • Verify that you've packed a separate essentials bag (toiletries, change of clothes, snacks, etc.).
  • Start the day with a good breakfast – it will be a long day.
  • Keep hydrated and take short breaks when needed.
  • Stay in communication with your movers, making sure everyone knows the plan.
  • Before moving day, arrange for utilities (water, gas, electricity) to be connected to your new home.
  • If possible, set up your internet service in advance – it’s one less thing to worry about.

Arriving at Your New Home

  • Do a quick inspection of the new place before unloading.
  • Direct the movers or helpers to the correct rooms with your boxes.
  • Check off items from your inventory list as they are brought in.
  • However, even with the best planning, minor hiccups can happen. The key is to stay calm and flexible.

Settling Into Your New Urbana Home
You've made it. The boxes are in, and the new chapter is set to begin. Settling into your new home is more than just unpacking – it's about creating a space that feels truly yours. Here's how to make that transition as smooth as possible.

Mom unpacking boxes

Rather than haphazardly opening boxes, tackle one room at a time. Start with the essentials, such as your bedroom and kitchen.
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Unpacking With Purpose
Start by unpacking the essentials – the kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom. Having these functional spaces set up first brings a sense of normalcy. Take your time to arrange your belongings thoughtfully. That isn't a race. It's an opportunity to shape your new living space to reflect your style and needs.

Meeting Your New Neighbors
Introducing yourself to your neighbors is a great way to feel at home. They can be invaluable sources of local knowledge and friendship. Generally, a simple 'hello' or a small gesture like sharing homemade cookies over tea or coffee can go a long way in building a network to have your back when a weather disaster strikes or need someone to collect your mail while on vacation. Want to know the best place to bank locally or which doctor to see, ask a neighbor.

Exploring Local Amenities
Once you're somewhat settled, take a walk around your new neighborhood and downtown area. Discover the local grocery store, parks, restaurants, and other amenities. This exploration helps you acclimate to your new surroundings and brings exciting opportunities to engage with your new community.

In the end, moving is not just about transporting belongings. It's the start of a new chapter in your life or the life of your family. Each step is essential to the journey, from getting to know your new hometown and settling into your new home. With these tips, you're well-equipped to make your transition smooth and enjoyable.

3 awesome SMART ideas for holiday gifts this year

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StatePoint Media - The holiday season is the perfect time of year to upgrade the kitchens of home chefs with the latest tech and tools. Here are three cool holiday gift ideas that will elevate the way your loved ones cook, host and clean up.

Smarter Composting

According to a recent report, the United States discards more food than any other country in the world, equating to 325 pounds of waste per person annually, with nearly half this waste generated in home kitchens. Whether you’re shopping for someone living in a region with mandatory composting or simply someone striving to be more sustainable at home, you can now gift them an effective solution to this issue.

While many people are aware of the environmental benefits of composting, such as reducing food waste, diverting trash from landfills and enriching garden soil, composting has also garnered a reputation for being time-consuming, messy and emitting unpleasant odors. Fortunately, new technology is addressing these challenges, making composting a convenient, clean and odor-free process for any household kitchen.

The THINKWARE BLUEVENT MUMU is the world’s first AI-powered smart food composter to use a new cutting-edge Metal Organic Framework (MOF) to block and inhibit the propagation of fungi to ensure clean and harmless use. Smart technology automatically measures food waste by weight then automates the disposal process accordingly. Additionally, AI storage automatically monitors food temperature and humidity to prevent spoilage. In summary, it eliminates the need for guesswork, leading to more successful composting. With a powerful, triple-activated carbon eco filter, this 4-liter capacity composter is odorless and whisper-quiet at just 20 decibels. It is now available at Amazon.com, Walmart.com, eBay.com, Newegg.com and Thinkwarestore.com.

Sparkling Water on Demand

One million plastic bottles are purchased every minute, according to Giving Compass. Unfortunately, the majority of them never get recycled. Help your loved one reduce their own contribution to this growing problem and bestow upon them an endless supply of carbonated beverages with a sparkling water maker. With a slim countertop profile, they’ll be able to transform tap water into seltzer in just few easy steps. This gift is great for mixologists who love to make and batch fizzy mocktails and cocktails for parties, as well as anyone with a thirst for reducing plastic waste.

Precision Cooking

Today’s kitchen scales don’t just simply weigh ingredients for precision cooking and baking, they also connect to smartphone apps for real-time nutritional analysis, recipe inspiration and instruction, and more. The best models ping the user’s device when they’ve added the correct amount of a given ingredient, easily toggle between different units of measurement, and allow users to save and share recipes via the app. This makes for a great gift for beginner cooks who want to get a feel for measurements, expert bakers looking for better results, those focused on portion control in the New Year, and anyone looking to optimize food prep.

By putting game-changing smart kitchen appliances at the top of your holiday shopping list, you can brighten the season for home chefs.


Holiday movie filmed in St. Joseph released on Friday

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ST. JOSEPH - Originally called "Fly Swatter Cafe" during production, the movie filmed in St. Joseph in January 2020 was released on YouTube on Friday. A Fargo Christmas Story, starring the late Ed Asner, Cynthia Aileen Strahan, and Richard Riele, is a film based on several short stories from Fargo, North Dakota. Just a few months before most of the world sheltered in place due to the pandemic, Geschenk Coffee House was the location chosen as the cafe featured several times in the one hour and 37-minute presentation.

While the majority of the production was completed in North Dakota, the writer and director, Monticello native Robin Christian Peters, told WCIA in 2020, "We were looking around for places to shoot, looked at 30 cafes, and found one in St. Joe that fit the, you know, the feeling. The charm wasn’t too modern, wasn’t too old."

Released on December 1, the movie can be viewed for free on YouTube or below.

The film also features Sadie Katz, Robert Donavan, and former Associate Chief Administrative Law Judge of the United States Social Security Administration, Paul Lillios.

Known for his iconic roles in "The Mary Tyler Moore Show", "Lou Grant", and the movie "Elf", Grant passed away on August 29, 2021, in Los Angeles.

Peters, who is Executive Producer and Director for Dreamscape Cinema, has produced ten films to date, and currently has two other projects in post-production.